We’ve all heard it at least once in our lives, that infamous “good hair,” “bad hair” statement. The one that leaves girls with certain hair types feeling like they’ve been given the short end of the stick when ‘good hair’ genes were being passed around. Those statements, that during our younger years, had us eyeing longingly at the girl in our class with the long, bouncy pigtails down her back. Sigh. Yes, those statements.
For the most part, some of us with naturally textured, Afro hair have been told that our hair isn’t good enough. Of course maybe not in those exact terms, but the majority of us can attest to having heard any one of these lines: “Oh, well you have ‘good hair’ so your hair can look like that,” or “You need a perm, your hair is nappy.” Let me go ahead and say this: EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO HAVING ‘GOOD HAIR.’
For starters, ‘good hair’ is healthy hair. If your idea of ‘bad hair’ is the hard, rough, dry knotted , brillo pad type look and feel that you’ve probably experienced, then I will assure you that you HAVE NOT taken good care of your hair, and furthermore, HAVE NOT yet experienced what your hair is actually capable of. The hard, rough dryness is due to your lack of consistent moisture (among other things), and this can easily be fixed with a CONSISTENT healthy hair regimen. Yes, you are in fact able to have healthy, soft, bouncy, shiny, lustrous, hair that flies in the wind and floats when you walk. Yes, you are able to have GOOD HAIR regardless of your texture.
Believe it or not, this ‘good hair,’ ‘bad hair’ complex has taken a negative toll on our Black community. It has entered into our psyche and has stuck with us for several generations dating back decades ago. Of course, the fact that we have been negatively influenced to believe that our hair texture is not acceptable in society is not our faults, but we cannot continue to be influenced. It is important that we open our minds and teach ourselves how to care for our hair properly so that we can achieve healthy looking and feeling hair. It’s not just about achieving healthier hair; it’s about achieving a healthier mindset!
Happy Hair Growing!